The Best Damn Quote About Relationships

I'm not a religious Scrubs watcher. I enjoy Zach Braff on TV (I seem to be the only person who didn't like Garden State) and I not-so-secretly think Dr. Cox is sexy. It's the asshole thing.

Anyway, there's an episode in the first season where all the characters break the fourth wall and talk about relationships, and Dr. Cox has this to say:

Relationships don't work the way they do on television or in the movies: will they, won't they, and then they finally do and they're happy forever--give me a break. Nine out of ten of them end because they weren't right for each other to begin with and half the ones who get married get divorced anyway and I'm telling you right now, through all this stuff, I have not become a cynic. I haven't. Yes, I do happen to believe that love is mainly about pushing chocolate-covered candies and, you know, in some cultures, a chicken. You can call me a sucker, I don't care. Because I do. Believe in it.

Bottom line: the couples that are truly right for each other wade through the same crap as everybody else, but the big difference is they don't let it take them down. One of those two people will stand up and fight for that relationship every time, if it's right, and they're real lucky. One of them will say something.

This is, without a doubt, the best relationship advice I've ever heard. It's so refreshing to hear that there is no magic formula, that even if you believe in The One and find that person, that there will still be fights, annoyances, times when you go to bed angry. That you can't possibly love someone so much that you'll never disagree with them. That no one can love you so much that you won't blow up at them the thirty-second time they get home, check their email, and wander the halls to see who's around before coming back to talk to you.

Love doesn't transcend everyday life. It makes it better, it gets you through the "discussions" and the tears and the compromising for the fifth or sixth time. But it doesn't mean you'll never have the conversation again. It just means you know why you're having it instead of walking away.